Parenting is a full-time job. It is more important and time taking than any other job. But we still do not understand it as much as we have to. Raising a healthy, happy, confident, and independent child is quite hectic. You have to put all your energy and time into this process. The reward is bigger than in any other task. Parenting is not about just feeding the baby; it's about making your child's mindset quite positive and independent. Your child could be able to follow the right track. Parenting is of two types: responsive (positive) or demanding (negative). Sometimes tantrums of children cause hurdles in this smooth process of Parenting.
What is a tantrum?
Parenting is difficult for every parent in society. It is not an easy task as it involves a lot of energy and full time. Certain things make this process hectic for parents. One of them is the tantrum of a child. Parenting is a continuous process of bringing up your child to make them confident and independent people in life. As it is clear, it is a continuous process. Starts right from the birth of the baby. The way we treat our children. The way we feed them and behave in front of them all play a major role in our Parenting's success.
As the child grows, they show certain behaviors. A tantrum is one of them, and it is the emotional response toward a certain place, thing, or activity. It results from certain likenesses or dislikes of a child towards certain things. It is quite normal. It is part of the child's mental growth.
Usually, children show tantrums at the age between 1 and 4 years. Because they are growing, they are learning about emotions. Now at this age, they want to become independent, and they want to take a few things into their hand according to their will and wish. Because of that desire, they show tantrums when they do not get what they want.
This behavior of the child gets fixed with age, especially with school. But parents' behavior during this emotional outburst of the child will decide whether it will last long or not. Sometimes parents start completing all the child's demands during tantrums; this is much more damaging to the child's emotional health. As they will learn that this trick will melt their parent's hearts, so continue this every time.
Why kids show tantrums
Since Parenting is a continuous process, your kids learn what you do, not what you say. So to raise an obedient child. Parents should know about the tricks to tackle the stubbornness of the child. Usually, children show rigid behavior when they come to know that they are the apple of the eye of their elders. So they started innocently blackmailing their parents through a tantrum.
This behavior is quite natural. All the kids between the ages of 1 to 4 years show such behavior, but the frequency is different. The frequency of such behavior decides whether it is dangerous or not. As with mental growth, all kids want to become independent. They want all their desires to be fulfilled right after they demand them. If they did not get a positive response, they started shouting and blowing up. It is quite embarrassing in front of strangers as well as relatives. People start pointing at the brought-up kid. At that time, parents have to stay calm and follow certain tricks to calm down the kid.
Another reason for a tantrum is when your toddler is hungry or sleepy. So, in this case, parents should be prepared all the time to feed the kid and make a proper environment and pattern for sleep. This planning will result in fewer problems during the routine of the child.
Tricks To Be Followed:
There are certain tricks which could be followed to avoid stubbornness of child at any point and place.
- First, keep an eye on your kid's sleeping and feeding patterns and make a proper routine.
- Avoid all the activities which increase the tantrums of the child.
- Always appreciate the child when they do something good.
- Always involve your child in regular decision-making activities.
- Never fulfill the demand of your kids all the time. Make them able to listen no from your side.
Conclusion
Do not get irritated when you face situations like these in life, as these are very common with all of us. We should try to deal with such issues calmly and also provide our children with a peaceful environment. If the child is very young, then it is not necessary to start with punishing him or her, just simply like I mentioned earlier, talk to them politely and explain them the situation and why their behavior is wrong.
It is clear from the whole discussion that one of the most difficult things parents find during Parenting is the tantrum shown by the child. It isn't very comfortable when a child starts to recalcitrate in front of others, especially in the mall, restaurant, etc. The best way to avoid such a situation in the future is not to fulfill the child's desire at that time. It will make the kid continue this process in the future to fulfill the desire.